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When we always do everything for our kids and parents, have you ever thought about the impact of that on their life? When there is a new technology which they have to learn but finding it difficult initially, Dutifully we come forward and do it ourself, without giving them an opportunity to learn. I don’t deny we are making their life easy. But At the cost of making them dependant on us?  After the first time, they don’t ever try to learn as we are there to do it for them.

This reminds me of an old story I had heard in my childhood. When someone is in suffering, don’t give them money, teach them how to earn money. Clearly, the former one just solves the temporary problem but the latter one solves their future problem also.

Keeping this in mind, next time teach them how to do the work, how to make it work. Be there, support them and supervise them when they try, But don’t do it yourself. Make them independent and eager to learn new things in their life. This is the correct way of helping them and motivating them to experience the thrill of doing things on their own.

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Why do we miss childhood

I was wondering for a long time, why do we miss childhood so much considering the fact that during childhood, we wanted to grow up as quickly as possible. Luckily I was able to convince myself with this analogy when I wrote a Quora answer. Tell me if you also agree with this!

Let’s say you like biscuits, you began eating biscuits every day. At first, you like it, but after some time, you began to dream of the chocolates. You want your biscuit stack to get over so you can try chocolates, you eat more biscuits without even tasting it fully.

Now when you got chocolates, eventually You are bored of that also and you wish you have biscuits like before and realise it was good actually, but you didn’t enjoy eating it well.

Like this when we are kids, we want to grow up badly. When we do and see the life of adults, we want to go back again to childhood.

Sports day

Today is sports day in our school. It is my first year in here as teacher.

Small kids were so excited about it. Childhood is very blissful time. They have worn their house colour and ready to play. For now, it is only the game. They have lot more to handle after they grew up. I sighed. All parents and audience were there to cheer them up.

Race started. First one is filling the bottle in one end with water from other end.

All kids lined up. After the whistle is blown, they took water in their small hand and started towards their destination except one girl.

She remained there taking water again and again , not happy with the leaking . She did not aware others have left. She just stood there trying to hold on as much water as possible. I was curious.

I went to her side and asked “Riya what happened ? ”

She looked up at me and spoke in her innocent voice ” I want to take more water in one time itself, then I will win.”

I smiled at her and replied “Riya you should take only that much your hand can hold. Otherwise you will spill all water . Now come on, take some amount and start. With few try, you will eventually fill the bottle.”

She thought for a minute then seem to understand my point, she put her hand in the tub and took little amount of water and started towards the other end.” She hurried after that and came in top position.

I wondered I was able to explain her this simple thing, but we actually should remember this for all situations in life. Take only that much you can handle in life , whether it’s work or money or responsibility. Don’t try to get everything in one go.

Innocent question

My daughter is 10 years and my son is 8 years . There was a small bucket of water , my dad was in bathroom, waiting for water. My kids were struggling who will carry that .

I said “ Don’t fight kids. Priya you carry that bucket, you are big girl right ? “

Her face was shining with pride. She smiled at me and made faces at her brother and carried that bucket.

We were going out, only kids were left behind.

I called them to say bye.

“ Listen kids . We are going out. Be safe. Arjun , you should take care of your sister. We leave her in your trust “

He smiled and went to play, but my daughter face fell.

She asked innocently “ Am I not your big girl now dad ? Why can’t I take care of my little brother ?”

I started to answer but “ No what I meant is ..”

I thought about it and sighed. She was right !

PS: small imaginary story

Sharing is caring

He was so hungry, he had fought with this mom for giving his favourite snacks to other kid, he didn’t eat the whole day.

Her mom went out, he didn’t accompany her as he was angry but he was waiting for her to come home so they can eat together.

He was still waiting for years now , his mom unfortunately didn’t return , They told him his mom went to god. He was scolding himself, he should have gone with mom , then she would have convinced her not to leave him alone.

He buy loads of his favourite snacks and food, give it to random kids now a days. Sharing is caring , he learnt  from his mother, but alas! his mother is not here to see all this.

 

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Christmas tree

Hurray!! It’s christmas Time
The lovely christmas tree stood tall with pride
kids were excited to decorate me
Jumping around me
Their little hands trying
to reach my various branch
Putting cute ornaments over me
Tying small gift boxes here and there
hanging the rings in golden threads
Kept the beautiful fairy on the top
Giving shape to every small idea they had
They stood aside admiring
Oh wow ! I look at me happily
“It’s adorable” Shouts the little girl in joy to her sister
I thank them from heart
She dragged her parents and showed them her creativity
I am merrily sat there as a part of their small world of happiness 🙂

Childhood or Heavenly time

Life has many phases…. we enjoy all that phase like childhood , teenage,adult age etc… All have their favorite phase… my favourite phase is childhood…

May be you too agree that…. How beautiful that age was…. no worries,no tension,no jealous,no greed,no selfish thoughts…… our heart was so pure, with innocent mind….we were always with our loved ones in world mom,dad and our siblings….. we did all what we loved without any second thoughts… we enjoyed our life in our own way… we made new friends,played with them,started experimenting our life… how beautiful our life will be if it stayed in that phase….. ofcourse it cant stay…:) As we growup, we stressed our life this much that we dont  have  time to be like that… we use the phrase’ wen i was a child i used to be lik this like this’‘  why we were same,our heart was same… it’s just that our priorities in life changed… instead of thinking about us .we started giving importance to the surrounding people… ‘omg that is so  childlish wat they will think of me ‘  We made ourself a  limit and learned to live within that for this society…. we can get back to that time… some do that wen they have kids to play with… that childlike personality is always there inside us..but we dont hav time to look around..give it a chance… if i got a chance  to ask god something… i will ask ‘ god let me live my childhood once again… enjoying it with  whole heart’