Redefine your fear

From the day we are born, we experience different things in life and meet different people. Based on our experience, we develop certain beliefs or have fear about certain things. As we grow up, our subconscious mind reminds us about those experience and keep the fear alive in our mind. 
That fear unknowingly ties us and restrain us from experiencing it again. I agree, I am not invalidating your fear and saying it’s wrong to have fear about certain things. But I ask you to loosen the grip of the fear and tiptoe to the unknown boundary. Surprisingly that fear might disappear as you experience the same things again in life. You might be able to cut off the string holding you right and breathe freely.

New year, New chapter

Life is like a novel. Every new year is like a new chapter in it. We have the chance to rewrite our character in each chapter. Even though, we can’t change other characters or events happening around us. We can reshape our character to be a new version. We can learn some new skills. We can cut off a fear that’s holding us back. We can be more compassionate towards other people. We can lend a helping hand to anyone in need. Let’s author our character from the scratch, the way we want. Take responsibility for the change, dream it, shape it.

Compassion is a choice.

Being compassionate is not easy always. Compassion is a conscious choice you make every second in your life. When you are doing good in life and you are not facing any problem yourself, then there’s more option that you can be compassionate.
when we are already struggling with problem, all our energy will be spend in overcoming that. Do you think you will have time to show empathy and be compassionate?
But wouldn’t you be happy when someone show us compassion when we are suffering? Everyone can have this expectation, can we put small effort to bring relief to someone? I agree we may not solve their problem, but we can understand their problem and give them listening ears. Its actually win-win for both. You will get compassion from them in turn. No need to wait for someone outside to lift you up, we can hold hands of fellow person going through same situation and rise together.

Be a saviour

We are almost at the end of the year. When we look back, this year seems very weird, many unexpected things due to pandemic to many people. For a second, Let’s assume someone was in a very difficult situation in life. They desperately needed help but even after trying a lot, they didn’t get any.

But somehow there was a ray of hope. Someone came as a saviour to lend a helping hand without a second thought. It might not be a big thing for them. But that help was very priceless to those who got it. Nothing can compensate for that help in a difficult time. When we close our eyes and feel the warmth of humanity, Shall we pledge to pass on the help to someone else in need? Needless to say, When you donate blood, you save life of someone in need. Let’s bring peace of mind to the suffering person by taking a small step from our end. Be a donor, Be a saviour.

Let’s sort it out

Covid time has forced us to remember one very important thing in life. Everything is uncertain. We don’t have enough time as we think we have, there is no later. Let’s stop the meaningless race and try to think if we have left anything incomplete.

Did you forget to tell anyone how much you have loved them? Did we forget to solve any silly fight? Did we forget to revive any dying relationship? Did we forget to forgive someone? Did we forget to say sorry to anyone? Did we forget to feel gratitude for what we have? Did we forget to love ourselves? Did we forget to be happy? Did we forget to live our life till now?  Before it’s too late. Try to sort out the things when you have time.

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Do you dare

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There are two kinds of unfortunate people in the world. One category doesn’t have anything they want and stays unhappy. The second category has everything they want still, they don’t utilize it and stay unhappy.

There is some hope for first-category people because they will work hard to get what they want to come out of their disappointment. But people in the second category don’t have the willingness to utilize the things they have. They won’t even give it to the needy in the fear of not having it, and for the same reason, they also won’t use it. They just keep on staring at the wasting things and stay upset.

Now the choice is yours to decide which category you are in and whether you want to come out of it or not. It’s easy to stay idle and complain about things going wrong. But do you dare to challenge it and change it for your good?

Love what you do

Do you love your job? Okay, you don’t have to answer immediately. Close your eyes imagine doing your job every day till you die and also your state of mind while doing that. Did you find your answer?
Let’s assume most of us, don’t like our job. But it’s only 10% due to the job itself but 90% due to our mindset about it.
Our ancestors who were working on the farm all day in the hot sun, were happier than us sitting in a comfortable chair. In our life, most of the time we are at work, doesn’t it make it necessary to love our work to be happy?
Let’s have a fresh start, forget what you feel about your job till now. Just one day, try to think that you love your job and enjoy doing it. Then see the difference.
Even after that, you didn’t like your job, its time to hunt for a new job which makes you happy.

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Enable, don’t block

When we always do everything for our kids and parents, have you ever thought about the impact of that on their life? When there is a new technology which they have to learn but finding it difficult initially, Dutifully we come forward and do it ourself, without giving them an opportunity to learn. I don’t deny we are making their life easy. But At the cost of making them dependant on us?  After the first time, they don’t ever try to learn as we are there to do it for them.

This reminds me of an old story I had heard in my childhood. When someone is in suffering, don’t give them money, teach them how to earn money. Clearly, the former one just solves the temporary problem but the latter one solves their future problem also.

Keeping this in mind, next time teach them how to do the work, how to make it work. Be there, support them and supervise them when they try, But don’t do it yourself. Make them independent and eager to learn new things in their life. This is the correct way of helping them and motivating them to experience the thrill of doing things on their own.

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Have you planned your year ahead

I remember reading this somewhere “New year is like a new diary to be filled”. That’s quite true though. In these 365 pages, we have the opportunity to add as many chapters as we like. We can try new hobbies to find our interest in it. We can find new friends to share our life’s secret. We can find our life partner to hold hands for the rest of our life. We can find a new job of our choice. We can read books from our reading list. We can travel to new places to enrich our experience. We can rewrite the old chapters in last year with a new perspective. Close your eyes and starts planning. Who knows you will end up collecting wonderful memories in this new diary!

Look around, get inspired

I read a book ‘simply fly’ about the air Deccan founder caption Gopinath. I was so inspired and mesmerized by the hurdles he has faced in life, yet we had succeeded in fulfilling his dream. This arises a question in my mind. We usually look at the person he has succeeded and get inspired. But he had succeeded because he had put on so many efforts and worked hard. Can we for a change look around the people in our life, who is working hard to achieve something and get inspired? We will also help them achieve it soon with this small gesture. Be inspired and also be a push factor for them. Instead of looking back at their life after success, be with them and make it worth a journey for them.