Covid time has forced us to remember one very important thing in life. Everything is uncertain. We don’t have enough time as we think we have, there is no later. Let’s stop the meaningless race and try to think if we have left anything incomplete.
Did you forget to tell anyone how much you have loved them? Did we forget to solve any silly fight? Did we forget to revive any dying relationship? Did we forget to forgive someone? Did we forget to say sorry to anyone? Did we forget to feel gratitude for what we have? Did we forget to love ourselves? Did we forget to be happy? Did we forget to live our life till now? Before it’s too late. Try to sort out the things when you have time.
There are two kinds of unfortunate people in the world. One category doesn’t have anything they want and stays unhappy. The second category has everything they want still, they don’t utilize it and stay unhappy.
There is some hope for first-category people because they will work hard to get what they want to come out of their disappointment. But people in the second category don’t have the willingness to utilize the things they have. They won’t even give it to the needy in the fear of not having it, and for the same reason, they also won’t use it. They just keep on staring at the wasting things and stay upset.
Now the choice is yours to decide which category you are in and whether you want to come out of it or not. It’s easy to stay idle and complain about things going wrong. But do you dare to challenge it and change it for your good?
Do you love your job? Okay, you don’t have to answer immediately. Close your eyes imagine doing your job every day till you die and also your state of mind while doing that. Did you find your answer? Let’s assume most of us, don’t like our job. But it’s only 10% due to the job itself but 90% due to our mindset about it. Our ancestors who were working on the farm all day in the hot sun, were happier than us sitting in a comfortable chair. In our life, most of the time we are at work, doesn’t it make it necessary to love our work to be happy? Let’s have a fresh start, forget what you feel about your job till now. Just one day, try to think that you love your job and enjoy doing it. Then see the difference. Even after that, you didn’t like your job, its time to hunt for a new job which makes you happy.
When we always do everything for our kids and parents, have you ever thought about the impact of that on their life? When there is a new technology which they have to learn but finding it difficult initially, Dutifully we come forward and do it ourself, without giving them an opportunity to learn. I don’t deny we are making their life easy. But At the cost of making them dependant on us? After the first time, they don’t ever try to learn as we are there to do it for them.
This reminds me of an old story I had heard in my childhood. When someone is in suffering, don’t give them money, teach them how to earn money. Clearly, the former one just solves the temporary problem but the latter one solves their future problem also.
Keeping this in mind, next time teach them how to do the work, how to make it work. Be there, support them and supervise them when they try, But don’t do it yourself. Make them independent and eager to learn new things in their life. This is the correct way of helping them and motivating them to experience the thrill of doing things on their own.
I remember reading this somewhere “New year is like a new diary to be filled”. That’s quite true though. In these 365 pages, we have the opportunity to add as many chapters as we like. We can try new hobbies to find our interest in it. We can find new friends to share our life’s secret. We can find our life partner to hold hands for the rest of our life. We can find a new job of our choice. We can read books from our reading list. We can travel to new places to enrich our experience. We can rewrite the old chapters in last year with a new perspective. Close your eyes and starts planning. Who knows you will end up collecting wonderful memories in this new diary!
I read a book ‘simply fly’ about the air Deccan founder caption Gopinath. I was so inspired and mesmerized by the hurdles he has faced in life, yet we had succeeded in fulfilling his dream. This arises a question in my mind. We usually look at the person he has succeeded and get inspired. But he had succeeded because he had put on so many efforts and worked hard. Can we for a change look around the people in our life, who is working hard to achieve something and get inspired? We will also help them achieve it soon with this small gesture. Be inspired and also be a push factor for them. Instead of looking back at their life after success, be with them and make it worth a journey for them.
I love chocolates and I know that I will be happy when I eat it. But don’t know why, When I was a kid I used to save the chocolate for the future. I kept it secure somewhere neatly wrapped up in its cover. For a few days after that, I would open the box and look at it with longing eyes and dream for the day to eat it. The idea of having the chocolate slowly turned from joy to constant pressure of saving it. That thought of not having chocolate scared me, I tried to save more and more chocolates. Few of my favourite ones got spoiled even before I eat it and day by day, I lost my willingness to have it.
Now taking this analogy, think of happiness in your life. We sometimes dream of being happy. But never allow the luxury of being happy to our self. We keep on saving that for some big event to occur in life. What if that big event never occur suddenly in a day, and its collection of all the small things we overlook all these days Isn’t it scary? Smile and Be Happy, Celebrate the moment without waiting for the dream of a big event in life.
I am very pleased with the enthusiasm shown by the readers. For this year, I want a small gift from the readers and fellow writers. In order to set my target right, I want constructive criticism or honest feedback from you all. Go ahead and comment which genre or category you want to read more in this blog or which category you want me to improve or simply which genre you liked in my blog 😃
I have read a story in my childhood. It is about 5 blind men describing the elephant by their touch as they come across different parts of an elephant in their life journeys. Even when you show the same thing to different people, their version completely differs based on their experience, view and imagination. But we believe, our version is a reality, other person is completely wrong and lacks the basic understanding of things. Before you argue, before you fight, Before you raise the voice, just think for one second that, they are a completely different person with a different perspective, which is right to them as your version is to you. This simple realisation can save ourselves from the ego and fight in future with others we face.
Every problem in life is similar to the math problem a kid got or the problem needs to be coded by a developer.
It is merely a problem which needs to be solved. But how do we do that?
Should we sit for hours and worry about it? Should we just chant mantras and wait for a miracle to happen?
Should we scold ourselves for landing in this situation in the first place? Of course not. We should brace our mind to solve it first, rack our mind to find the best solution. After that, the problem itself seems small and easy to solve. It is always difficult to get the mindset to solve the problem than solve it 🙂