It’s a new year, a new beginning. Are you quite excited like a child opening the gift to find what this year has in hold for you? I am not going to deny, I am also pretty excited. Before planning 2021, Let’s look back and peek at 2020 for a moment. I know it’s a tougher year for everyone, thinking it all again makes us sigh aloud. But come on, do you agree every tough situation also teaches us something when we change our perspective?
How simple our life was before pandemic? We worked hard in our job, to spend more on something meaningful like education or our future home, adding memories through the trips, shopping a lot or simply for time-pass like movies and snacks. We believed all this makes us happy or it keeps a healthy social circle.
After pandemic, everything changed upside down. Many people lost their job which they are holding dearer than their life. Many people couldn’t go out on a trip, frankly, living in pandemic itself was very adventurous. Many people didn’t shop, well there was no need for new dresses, pyjamas became our all-time companion. But none of these stopped our life, it went on in the new normal way.
2020 has taught us many things we weren’t very eager to learn otherwise. Even when you put all your life in the job, it only took a few minutes for the company to lay you off when it comes to cost-cutting. We were living peacefully at home without partying or vacationing. We have realized the expense we were doing all were years like shopping or movie is not at all necessary to lead a happy life. It has highlighted the importance of savings for any emergency situation and also the possibility of not having a job. We got loads of time to spend with our family. Our new normal was like a wakeup call for everyone.
Considering all these, if you rethink, 2020 has taught as much hidden good things and has raised many meaningful questions in our mind. Do you still tag 2020 as simply ‘unfortunate’ year?
I read a book ‘simply fly’ about the air Deccan founder caption Gopinath. I was so inspired and mesmerized by the hurdles he has faced in life, yet we had succeeded in fulfilling his dream. This arises a question in my mind. We usually look at the person he has succeeded and get inspired. But he had succeeded because he had put on so many efforts and worked hard. Can we for a change look around the people in our life, who is working hard to achieve something and get inspired? We will also help them achieve it soon with this small gesture. Be inspired and also be a push factor for them. Instead of looking back at their life after success, be with them and make it worth a journey for them.
Are we conditioned by society or surrounding to live in a certain way? We buy things shown and pushed to us through advertisement. We are happy with the things we get in our nearby shops, whichever the shopkeeper is keen to sell with offers. We are choosing the dress and fashion from people around us in the fear of standing out otherwise. We are studying the degree which promises more career opportunity in the greed of running ahead of the race. We are reacting or speaking in a certain way the people around us are comfortable with. Are we even living the free will?
No good or bad thing happens in our life. There are few things happens which we filter out based on our convenience to either good or bad. Do you wonder why? Consider that you are going somewhere, reached the railway station before the train’s scheduled time. you are waiting for a long time and train arrives on time and you think its good thing happened that day. But consider the reverse scenario, you have to catch your train at 8 pm, the train arrives on time. You reach the station 5 minutes late. Now the same train and timing irritate you. you end up being frustrated and think its bad day.
Consider you are sitting near the window sipping your tea, reading a book and it’s raining heavily. You feel so excited and enjoy nature’s beauty. But consider the revert scenario, you are going to the office in a two-wheeler, you have an important meeting. you already in a hurry and it rains, your dress is spoiled. Your mood is off and you end up cursing the same rain. Before feeling bad about the things that happened, one second try to see the full picture. True that few things got happened, it need not be separated as the bad thing, just because we are not comfortable with that. Take a breath, Don’t spoil the mood. Sometimes things do happens, whether we like it or not.
I love chocolates and I know that I will be happy when I eat it. But don’t know why, When I was a kid I used to save the chocolate for the future. I kept it secure somewhere neatly wrapped up in its cover. For a few days after that, I would open the box and look at it with longing eyes and dream for the day to eat it. The idea of having the chocolate slowly turned from joy to constant pressure of saving it. That thought of not having chocolate scared me, I tried to save more and more chocolates. Few of my favourite ones got spoiled even before I eat it and day by day, I lost my willingness to have it.
Now taking this analogy, think of happiness in your life. We sometimes dream of being happy. But never allow the luxury of being happy to our self. We keep on saving that for some big event to occur in life. What if that big event never occur suddenly in a day, and its collection of all the small things we overlook all these days Isn’t it scary? Smile and Be Happy, Celebrate the moment without waiting for the dream of a big event in life.
I sometimes wonder the ripples we see in the surface of the water, is it caused by the stone thrown just now? or is it caused by the constant tension forming beneath the water all these years? Do you think a smiling person as happy as we assume them to be or the smile is the well-crafted mask they wore to hide the sadness beneath? Do we even succeed in looking through it? Without knowing what they are feeling, is it even fair to advise them to be happy? Are we crazy enough to think wealth, money, fame, power are enough to make someone happy? Maybe our definition of happiness is not their definition. Surprisingly even small things can make you happy like reading a book or talking to a friend or petting an animal. Everyone sees the world differently so as their essence of happiness differs. Do try loads of small things to find your happiness or a spark to live, Before taking the big step to give up. Long live Sushant Singh Rajput in our memory. You are always an inspiration for the people to dream big.
Are you happy in this lockdown, doing something you have postponed for a long time? Like writing, reading, drawing, learning, cleaning the house or sorting out your life, building a healthy relationship with yourself and others. Are you bored and always keeps looking on the news for the update or calendar for magically the days to fly by? Are you getting irritated blaming people and government? If you are in the second category, now it’s time for you to think about yourself. Either you are scared of not doing the routine stuff and you are accustomed to doing new things. This extra time just scares you in the fear of feeling bored and sitting idle. If this scares you think of the time after your retirement. So better learn to practise from now. Empty your mind of any such feelings and think, if you have to rebuild your life what would like to do? Like attaining a new skill, growing a new hobby or simply doing self-grooming with love. Nurture a small plant or talk to your family, try to find what they are interested to do in their time. Distract yourself, do something valuable in this quarantine. Don’t let yourself regret again in future, thinking what if you have used that time in a better way.
Today the world is completely different from the one we had known all these years. We can’t go out as we please or can’t stay close to the people as we used to do. We are hearing and trying to apply new terms to our dictionary ‘Social distancing’. We are forced to let go of the things we used to do like partying, gymming and roaming around. Now we are filtering out the need from the wish and fun. If animals are moving back to the comfortable and natural habitat and the environment is self-cleansing, then can we do this to ourselves? Look around you and filter out the unneeded things from your life without which you can live as usual. Look inside your mind and try to do something that you have always wanted to do but was procrastinating because of not having time. Now its time, so start digging up and explore your wishes.
Do you agree that we learn most of the things from what we hear or watch often? Now if you agree to that point, Let’s think about it for a while. We watch movies or serials or simply the videos in social media. Most of these show the negative things in the world unknowingly thinking this will teach us how to see life. There’s always a hero who is so good and innocent and also there are villains who will create loads of problem to the hero. The story revolves around them, in the journey of hero anticipating the problem and at the end how he overcomes them and defeats the villain. Seeing all this, we began to over analyze the people in our life, we end up anticipating anyone to change into a villain at any time and to create a problem. In the process of being the hero, we end up assuming some normal person as a villain in our life. Is this mentality actually protecting us or just making an illusion of being protected? I agree media teaches us how to perceive things, But aren’t we forced to think like they want us to think?