Do you love your job? Okay, you don’t have to answer immediately. Close your eyes imagine doing your job every day till you die and also your state of mind while doing that. Did you find your answer? Let’s assume most of us, don’t like our job. But it’s only 10% due to the job itself but 90% due to our mindset about it. Our ancestors who were working on the farm all day in the hot sun, were happier than us sitting in a comfortable chair. In our life, most of the time we are at work, doesn’t it make it necessary to love our work to be happy? Let’s have a fresh start, forget what you feel about your job till now. Just one day, try to think that you love your job and enjoy doing it. Then see the difference. Even after that, you didn’t like your job, its time to hunt for a new job which makes you happy.
Is your opinion really yours or is it formed by hearing someone’s? Be it your friend, family or any stranger in the society?
You hear your friend saying there is good restaurant opened in the town and it is awesome. After hearing all those exciting reviews, you take happy bites, assuming it to be good. It might not be good, but you pretend that as per your friend’s review. You take up the task of passing on same reviews to others. It goes on and on. It’s true for negative case also. Even though we like something, most of the time we agree to others when they say it’s not good. Even when you have to stand for your point alone, stick to it. You don’t have to pretend to be with others. Of course, listen to others, but when forming an opinion, forget the things you heard. Think about only what you feel about it. Stand Alone, But Stand for your point.
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When we always do everything for our kids and parents, have you ever thought about the impact of that on their life? When there is a new technology which they have to learn but finding it difficult initially, Dutifully we come forward and do it ourself, without giving them an opportunity to learn. I don’t deny we are making their life easy. But At the cost of making them dependant on us? After the first time, they don’t ever try to learn as we are there to do it for them.
This reminds me of an old story I had heard in my childhood. When someone is in suffering, don’t give them money, teach them how to earn money. Clearly, the former one just solves the temporary problem but the latter one solves their future problem also.
Keeping this in mind, next time teach them how to do the work, how to make it work. Be there, support them and supervise them when they try, But don’t do it yourself. Make them independent and eager to learn new things in their life. This is the correct way of helping them and motivating them to experience the thrill of doing things on their own.
Imagine the situation where you keep on getting unnecessary messages or calls from a random person. You keep on answering or replying. Your frustration increase and adds a headache to your life. Same way, Now consider having unnecessary thoughts in your mind. You keep on thinking about it, you either justify it or resist it. Both of that simply drains your energy. Why not block it at the early stage?
When this pandemic started, I was staying at home all time due to the fear of getting affected, my mind was clouded with the possibility of all ‘what if’ situation. But I used to look out of the window and yearn for the day I will go out and enjoy the walk. Going out was a risk at this time. As the result, I was putting on weight and sad about not able to do anything.
One day, I decided I had enough of all this fear, I took enough safety measures and stepped out of the house. At last, I was able to feel the freedom from the restriction. I walked regularly and stayed fit and also happy.
This made me think about the similarity of this with our life. We have the fear of something bad happening in our lives and don’t ever take the risk. We try to stay safe in our comfort zone and only yearn to do something we love. Eventually, this adds depression in our mind and suck out happiness. Take a calculated risk, step out of the comfort zone which exists only in our mind.
I remember reading this somewhere “New year is like a new diary to be filled”. That’s quite true though. In these 365 pages, we have the opportunity to add as many chapters as we like. We can try new hobbies to find our interest in it. We can find new friends to share our life’s secret. We can find our life partner to hold hands for the rest of our life. We can find a new job of our choice. We can read books from our reading list. We can travel to new places to enrich our experience. We can rewrite the old chapters in last year with a new perspective. Close your eyes and starts planning. Who knows you will end up collecting wonderful memories in this new diary!
It’s a new year, a new beginning. Are you quite excited like a child opening the gift to find what this year has in hold for you? I am not going to deny, I am also pretty excited. Before planning 2021, Let’s look back and peek at 2020 for a moment. I know it’s a tougher year for everyone, thinking it all again makes us sigh aloud. But come on, do you agree every tough situation also teaches us something when we change our perspective?
How simple our life was before pandemic? We worked hard in our job, to spend more on something meaningful like education or our future home, adding memories through the trips, shopping a lot or simply for time-pass like movies and snacks. We believed all this makes us happy or it keeps a healthy social circle.
After pandemic, everything changed upside down. Many people lost their job which they are holding dearer than their life. Many people couldn’t go out on a trip, frankly, living in pandemic itself was very adventurous. Many people didn’t shop, well there was no need for new dresses, pyjamas became our all-time companion. But none of these stopped our life, it went on in the new normal way.
2020 has taught us many things we weren’t very eager to learn otherwise. Even when you put all your life in the job, it only took a few minutes for the company to lay you off when it comes to cost-cutting. We were living peacefully at home without partying or vacationing. We have realized the expense we were doing all were years like shopping or movie is not at all necessary to lead a happy life. It has highlighted the importance of savings for any emergency situation and also the possibility of not having a job. We got loads of time to spend with our family. Our new normal was like a wakeup call for everyone.
Considering all these, if you rethink, 2020 has taught as much hidden good things and has raised many meaningful questions in our mind. Do you still tag 2020 as simply ‘unfortunate’ year?
I read a book ‘simply fly’ about the air Deccan founder caption Gopinath. I was so inspired and mesmerized by the hurdles he has faced in life, yet we had succeeded in fulfilling his dream. This arises a question in my mind. We usually look at the person he has succeeded and get inspired. But he had succeeded because he had put on so many efforts and worked hard. Can we for a change look around the people in our life, who is working hard to achieve something and get inspired? We will also help them achieve it soon with this small gesture. Be inspired and also be a push factor for them. Instead of looking back at their life after success, be with them and make it worth a journey for them.