Covid time has forced us to remember one very important thing in life. Everything is uncertain. We don’t have enough time as we think we have, there is no later. Let’s stop the meaningless race and try to think if we have left anything incomplete.
Did you forget to tell anyone how much you have loved them? Did we forget to solve any silly fight? Did we forget to revive any dying relationship? Did we forget to forgive someone? Did we forget to say sorry to anyone? Did we forget to feel gratitude for what we have? Did we forget to love ourselves? Did we forget to be happy? Did we forget to live our life till now? Before it’s too late. Try to sort out the things when you have time.
There are two kinds of unfortunate people in the world. One category doesn’t have anything they want and stays unhappy. The second category has everything they want still, they don’t utilize it and stay unhappy.
There is some hope for first-category people because they will work hard to get what they want to come out of their disappointment. But people in the second category don’t have the willingness to utilize the things they have. They won’t even give it to the needy in the fear of not having it, and for the same reason, they also won’t use it. They just keep on staring at the wasting things and stay upset.
Now the choice is yours to decide which category you are in and whether you want to come out of it or not. It’s easy to stay idle and complain about things going wrong. But do you dare to challenge it and change it for your good?
Do you love your job? Okay, you don’t have to answer immediately. Close your eyes imagine doing your job every day till you die and also your state of mind while doing that. Did you find your answer? Let’s assume most of us, don’t like our job. But it’s only 10% due to the job itself but 90% due to our mindset about it. Our ancestors who were working on the farm all day in the hot sun, were happier than us sitting in a comfortable chair. In our life, most of the time we are at work, doesn’t it make it necessary to love our work to be happy? Let’s have a fresh start, forget what you feel about your job till now. Just one day, try to think that you love your job and enjoy doing it. Then see the difference. Even after that, you didn’t like your job, its time to hunt for a new job which makes you happy.
Is your opinion really yours or is it formed by hearing someone’s? Be it your friend, family or any stranger in the society?
You hear your friend saying there is good restaurant opened in the town and it is awesome. After hearing all those exciting reviews, you take happy bites, assuming it to be good. It might not be good, but you pretend that as per your friend’s review. You take up the task of passing on same reviews to others. It goes on and on. It’s true for negative case also. Even though we like something, most of the time we agree to others when they say it’s not good. Even when you have to stand for your point alone, stick to it. You don’t have to pretend to be with others. Of course, listen to others, but when forming an opinion, forget the things you heard. Think about only what you feel about it. Stand Alone, But Stand for your point.
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When we always do everything for our kids and parents, have you ever thought about the impact of that on their life? When there is a new technology which they have to learn but finding it difficult initially, Dutifully we come forward and do it ourself, without giving them an opportunity to learn. I don’t deny we are making their life easy. But At the cost of making them dependant on us? After the first time, they don’t ever try to learn as we are there to do it for them.
This reminds me of an old story I had heard in my childhood. When someone is in suffering, don’t give them money, teach them how to earn money. Clearly, the former one just solves the temporary problem but the latter one solves their future problem also.
Keeping this in mind, next time teach them how to do the work, how to make it work. Be there, support them and supervise them when they try, But don’t do it yourself. Make them independent and eager to learn new things in their life. This is the correct way of helping them and motivating them to experience the thrill of doing things on their own.
Imagine the situation where you keep on getting unnecessary messages or calls from a random person. You keep on answering or replying. Your frustration increase and adds a headache to your life. Same way, Now consider having unnecessary thoughts in your mind. You keep on thinking about it, you either justify it or resist it. Both of that simply drains your energy. Why not block it at the early stage?
When this pandemic started, I was staying at home all time due to the fear of getting affected, my mind was clouded with the possibility of all ‘what if’ situation. But I used to look out of the window and yearn for the day I will go out and enjoy the walk. Going out was a risk at this time. As the result, I was putting on weight and sad about not able to do anything.
One day, I decided I had enough of all this fear, I took enough safety measures and stepped out of the house. At last, I was able to feel the freedom from the restriction. I walked regularly and stayed fit and also happy.
This made me think about the similarity of this with our life. We have the fear of something bad happening in our lives and don’t ever take the risk. We try to stay safe in our comfort zone and only yearn to do something we love. Eventually, this adds depression in our mind and suck out happiness. Take a calculated risk, step out of the comfort zone which exists only in our mind.
I remember reading this somewhere “New year is like a new diary to be filled”. That’s quite true though. In these 365 pages, we have the opportunity to add as many chapters as we like. We can try new hobbies to find our interest in it. We can find new friends to share our life’s secret. We can find our life partner to hold hands for the rest of our life. We can find a new job of our choice. We can read books from our reading list. We can travel to new places to enrich our experience. We can rewrite the old chapters in last year with a new perspective. Close your eyes and starts planning. Who knows you will end up collecting wonderful memories in this new diary!