Let me ask you one simple question ,
“Are you happy?”
Really simple isn’t it ? You might answer yes or no.
Let me ask you bit tricky question “why?”
99% of people will point to someone or something for their reason of happiness or unhappiness. But surprisingly, It is often same thing. Which make you happy now , will eventually make you unhappy also.
Let’s say, A child is happily playing, you go and gift it a car. It makes the child so happy, It began to play with it. Later the same car got break down and the child cries for it and became sad. Doesn’t that irrelevant ? Child was happy before the car came into picture , But the child like many of us, related the happiness with the car, when it got broken. It got the illusion that all the happiness is gone . It began to blame for the time spend in playing or even getting that car in the first place. But that is simple car, If the child don’t relate that to the internal happiness, It’s existence or non-existence does not matter.
Take another example, A guy is happily living on his sufficient salary. One day he got the lottery ticket in the hope of becoming millionaire. Now Even the thought of getting it, makes him so happy. He foolishly related his every bit of happiness with winning the ticket. Later in the result day , he went to check with huge expectation. But unfortunately he did not get the prize. Now he gets so sad, his job seems petty one now.
Accept it , Being happy or not is in our hand. There is no external source which will make you unhappy , when you want to be happy. Don’t relate anyone or anything to your happiness, their presence in your life temporary or even permanent does not have any impact on your happiness.